If you’ve ever really been in love, then you know that it’s something amazing that only comes once in a while. Whether you see each other every day, once a week, or just a few times a year, relationships can be hard. I am in love with my high school sweetheart who recently became a United States Marine. He just finished marine boot camp and I am proud to say that “we made it!!” I say we because even though he was the one going through all of the physical training, I was right there with him emotionally, and the distance was not easy. Over 3 months, we could not talk on the phone, we simply wrote letters to each other. The end result was amazing, however, and I could not be prouder of my Marine!! I would like to share some of the tips I have learned about surviving a long distance relationship:
1. Never hesitate to let your loved one know how remarkable you care. I cannot say this enough. It is so valuable that you let your love know unprejudiced how much they mean to you. Whether you gain to scrutinize them or if you have to tell them over the phone, by e-mail, or through a letter- swear them every chance you get. Nothing keeps love alive more than loving words and kindness.
2. Write down the exiguous things that you want to remember or that are special to you. Over the past 5 years I have kept several different scrapbooks of little memories that I have with my care for. Whether it be pictures, letters, tickets to games and movies we’ve been to, or just little gizmos and gadgets that make me think of him, I have saved many things. It’s so special to look back on now- and of course every memory makes me fall in love all over again.
3. Write letters!! Okay, so this may sound cheesy if you are able to call each other or communicate via the internet, however if boot camp taught me anything it was that letters are a way to connect with your loved one. While the 3 months was hard to be away from my Marine, his words on paper were amazing. Also, the thrill of checking the mailbox every day and hoping to find a letter, and the feeling I got when I did receive a letter- nothing could top that.
4. Find several songs that remind you of your loved one, and share them with each other- that way every time you hear the song randomly on the radio, or you play it on your itunes, you will think of them. This is a great way to stay connected!
I hope that some of these tips help you in your relationships. I’m sure I will be writing many more in the days to come because the distance is just beginning for me and my Marine.
